I spent the better part of yesterday afternoon constructing a multimedia movie for the family that, over the weekend, lost their baby boy. I had 156 photos, four songs and a one minute video clip. How do you portray the short, 18 months of life lived by that young boy, with a handful of media clips? He drowned Monday in the pool in the back yard as his two little sisters stood by... Mom had stepped inside briefly. How am I supposed to portray a tragedy in anything but a tragic light? This has deeply disturbed me.
I am reminded of the two times that our dogs have come close to death. I know how I felt then; I can't even imagine how I would feel now.
This blog is an outlet for my feelings, sorry if this has disturbed you. I need to get this off my mind, it is saddening to the bone.
7 comments:
First off i just want to say that it was a horrible horrible thing that happened, and what i am about to say does not mean that i dont feel sorrow for dr. cubeca, but here goes.
Why, why would you step inside your house when your 2 yr old son is by the pool. Everyone knows how toddlers like to walk. It was an accident, i understand, but it could have totally been avoided.
I think this topic should be entirely left alone. Ben, I think it is great that you are attempting to capture the magical time that that child spent here on earth and you should definitely explore how to make that as powerful as possible, but I don't think it is ANYONE's place to pass judgement on this family from what they "heard" happen.
I've already heard 3 different stories, and I don't even know these people, and it happened just 3 days ago.
None of us know the TRUE story, so before we start saying things like, "the sisters stood by while he drowned" and "Why, why would you step inside your house when your 2 yr old son is by the pool. Everyone knows how toddlers like to walk." We should step back and just think about this. This family already feels terrible enough as it is w/o people like us speculating on how they could have done a better job being parents or sisters.
They are going to feel guilty and responsible for the rest of their lives and it will truly be a miracle if they are all able to put this tragedy behind them. I think we should all pray for the survival of this family and excuse ourselves from trying to decipher how in the world this could have happened.
Ben, I would suggest a montage of the babies photos from birth to the age of 18 months with a song that is mournful, but up beat as opposed to extremely sad and depressing.
Sorry for the brutally long e-mail, but I had to get that off my chest.
i dont think this should be left alone. ben has a difficult task ahead of him and needed to vent a little about it. i also dont believe he passed any judgment whatsoever, so his post was not offensive to me. i have met dr. cabeca...actually, i met her while she was pregnant with her son. this is a terrible thing that has happened, and it happens so often. they need prayers, not for us to argue over whether or not ben should have brought it up.
Okay, maybe i was wrong to judge... i wasnt there, i am sorry. But i definitely agree with anonymous #2 (katie?), Ben should be able to put whatever he wants on here without being scorned. It is his blog and he can vent anyway he wants. If it offends you or you dont like something that was put on, dont read it.
Ben, you should make this about a celebration of life, not the mourning of a loss. Yes, it is a terrible thing that happened, but make it about what joy this boy brought to his family during that time he was here. When people want to look at this video, make them remember the good times had with him. Get pictures from family vacations, of him smiling on a swing set, etc... Thats my opinion. If there truely is a heaven, then he is in a much better place right now and thats what you have to remember.
I agree, I don't like talking about this either. The job is done, I finished yesterday evening... it's still cycling through my mind though. I have to clarify one thing. No I was not blaming the girls by saying they stood there; I rather ment that it was most unfortunate that the sister's had to see that happen. But, I was wrong. They did not. The baby opend the back door and went outside by himself.
It was good seeing you too! I'm just staying out of this debate...
nothing regarding this post was put up by katie...she was chillin in the bahamas. don't be jealous.
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